Final part....

The weekend was over and I was back at work. However, I looked wasted that Monday and all my workmates
were so worried to see me in such a horrible state! My boss told me to take a break from work if I wanted after hearing what had happened. I really needed a breather, so I took a month leave. The news of my break up was unbelievable in people's ears and spread like fire within a few days. Some sincerely sympathized with me while for others it was jubilation! In this world such is expected! I was extremely angry at Barry's family too. I felt they all made a fool out of my family and I,at least they should have told or tipped us about it. The weekend that followed, Barry's relatives came to ask for forgiveness, but my relatives were really angry and didn't give them a proper audience. My father told them that the damage had already been caused and if they really respected and loved us, they would have come to inform my family about the change of events before the wedding took place! They apologized and said they were embarrassed to face my family at that time! My uncle then asked them to take their dowry and they refused and stated they didn't come for that.

I heed my parent's advice of not contacting Barry. However, two weeks later, he called Stacy and told her that he was really surprised about my silence,''Rita is proud, many women would fight''. In all honesty what was there to fight for? She was his wife not girlfriend for God's sake!
I am sure he expected me to start chasing after him... A week later he had the audacity to call me so that he could explain everything and that he was sorry. I turned down his request because if I fell for it, he would have gone in my pants, leaving me more heartbroken. Since I still had feelings for him, I avoided meeting him at all costs. I went into depression and I lost some weight, the break up came when I least expected it and was so hard on me! A month later, my parents called his middle man to come and collect the dowry, but they couldn't come and instead insisted my family keeps it. Resuming work was of great help and so was Stacy and Yvonne, who checked on me regularly ! 
 Five months later, in our high spirits Stacy and I went for lunch at levy junction, guess who we bumped into? BARRY and his wife Carol, hand in hand! When he saw us he let go of the wife's hand. He greeted us and failed to introduce his wife, then Stacy told him, she was beautiful, but not compared to me... and that's how we left them standing in disbelief! In the evening Barry sent a text complementing my looks and I didn't respond. I think because of Barry's behaviour, the wife started stalking me on Facebook and tried sending friendship requests,using different accounts which I turned down. It didn't end there, she started sending text messages warning me to leave her hubby alone... It was really surprising because not even one-day did I ever send, write or reply to any of Barry's messages. I told Yvonne about it and that's how she stopped. 
Carol had insecurities because the first five months after getting married, She was still working in Livingstone, waiting for her transfer to be finalized. She only joined the hubby over the weekends... I am sure she thought I would be going to her house to see Barry. I wouldn't sink so low after all the humiliation he caused me, I just couldn't. I vowed if it meant dying single, so it would have been than going back to my vomits! Marriage is a big step in life and for Barry to choose Carol over me (Rita) he weighed his pros and cons carefully. For that reason I wouldn't cross his path and hence our chapter was forever closed! 
According to Yvonne it was like there was no peace in their home, so Carol thought probably I was the contributing factor. Yvonne is a nice person and I knew she genuinely sympathized with me, but I didn't want to be close with her because she was connected to Carol and Barry.
I slowly started healing, as they say time heals all wounds, it surely did! I still believed in love and I gave a relationship another try after 2 years. Joe and I married after a year of dating. We have a wonderful relationship and are now blessed with 3 children, 3 year old twin boys and a one-year-old baby girl!
Yvonne is happily married with two lovely kids while Stacy is engaged to be married and her wedding is set for the 23rd of December this year! I am so so happy for her!
Barry and Carol are still married, but they don't have a child yet! I wish God can grant them their heart desires the soonest!
I came to realize that Barry and I were never meant to be but he was just my introduction to relationships! Maybe if we had gotten married, I wouldn't have been as happy as I am with Joe. He would probably have been cheating on me'' as they say once a cheat always a cheat ''I can now gladly say ''it was indeed a blessing in disguise''!.
I dealt with my breakup by: 
- Praying so that God could give me the strength to carry on and it really helped.
 - Taking my time to heal by involving myself in various activities.Like writing ,which has become my  favourite hobby ! I always found comfort in surrounding myself with positive people, who made me happy and added value to my life. Happiness can be contagious. 
- Crying my heart out whenever I felt the pain, helped me to release my anger and tensions. However, we all have different ways of coping and overcoming a heartbreak.
 - Accepting the breakup as a part of life and that Barry was a closed chapter, also helped greatly. I didn't want any confrontations or embarking on hurt by causing unnecessary dramas, but I chose to Forgive Barry.'' Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. Sometimes it is very hard to move on, but when you eventually do, you will see that it is the best decision you have ever made'' 
I dated Barry since I was a teenager while he and Carol only dated for seven months and they ended up together. This only shows that '' sometimes'' dating someone for a long time is not a guarantee that you will marry that person. The other thing is, I was a virgin, but he still left, so for me, I would say '' this marriage thing is just luck''! It is always good to bear in mind that tomorrow comes with a lot of unforeseen occurrences and challenges.Someone can change due to a lot of factors and circumstances eg: the friends they hang out with, boredom (when one feels like the partner is boring)falling out of love, lust and so forth......
Lastly, just because someone you loved ''wholeheartedly'' broke your heart terribly, does not mean everybody who crosses your path will do the same thing, NO! It simply means you were not just meant to be together and there's surely somebody else out there, destined to be with you at the right time!
Psalms 34:18 “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” God never turns away from those who are hurting. Have patience, knowing he has a plan for you. 
I am actually a birthday girl,I just turned a year today.. (14th sep)
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